Judging others is a toxic habit Letting go of judgment of others is a great step towards living a happy life as it is an excellent way of freeing ourselves from the negative emotions that prevent us from living joyful and fulfilled life. However, we often find ourselves judging others regardless of our best efforts. Those who focus on the positive of others do not pass judgment and this habit breeds positivity in them.
Early Nightingale once said that when you judge another person, you are actually defining yourself and not them. I can’t agree more. This means that the instinct to judge others is deep-seated in ourselves and it indicates some kind of our own problem that we are struggling with.
Letting go of judgment of others is the gateway to be a cheerful positive person
To be a cheerful positive person, you should chuck the habit of judging others. If you notice a habit of judgment of others within you and you would want to change, here are some strategies you can apply:
• Look for basic goodness always by training the mind to scan for the positive
• Take a compassionate and mindful approach toward all your internal experiences with an aim of developing a different kind of relationship with what goes through your mind
• Transform any negative judgment into validation
• Have realistic expectations of others
• Be grateful to others always
• Try to understand situations from other people’s perspective
• Always give other people the benefit of doubt
A study conducted in the University of Nebraska asserted that negative perceptions of others, which we often use to judge them, can significantly boost narcissism and lead to antisocial behavior. Besides, Wood says that the simple habit of seeing people negatively could be an indication of underlying depression and many other personality disorders.
Feeling judged by other people is among the most wounding things we can feel within our hearts as human beings. It is a toxic habit that hurts not only those we judge, but ourselves as well.